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Life 2.0 – 2 Day Workshop, February 2019

$990.00 AUD

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  • When pain strikes us in the gizzards it’s easy to react. It’s easy to feel the punch of anger inside and point a finger at someone else. It’s easy to feel fear and grasp at words to fire at other to lessen the blow. If there’s anything we can apply right now in our world that will actually change the cycles of pain and fear - it’s love. I did an IG live and FB live on this topic and you can go and watch if you’d like to learn the alternatives you have to reacting in anger and what you do when you’re suffering that’s not projection ❤️ LOVE
  • Hey you. It’ll all be okay. In fact, it will be fucking fabulous. Remember that time you didn’t want to do that thing and you wished that moment never happened and you wanted to take it back and you fought with reality and you wished it all to be how you wanted it to be? And then it wasn’t how you wanted it to be and you thought you might fall the fuck apart and you cried a muffled cry and wanted to scream but you sucked it up and felt it all and it eventually passed. And afterwards things that you never imagined, great things, they happened. And if that moment you never wanted to occur didn’t actually happen all the great things wouldn’t have been able to come into fruition. Remember that? Yes. Well. It’s the same in each of those moments you struggle and want it to change. Let it be. Let life be. Let it unfold. Because on the other side of that, you’re going to be fucking great. You’ve got no idea what kind of life is waiting for you on the other side. Don’t be afraid, be patient and expect a miracle. Happy Friday
  • Full disclosure. Contrary to the fabulous quote by a near and dear of mine, @longdistancelovebombs I in fact, do not feel like this in my mind. I’ve felt the opposite for a few days and been struggling with some heaviness. Thank fuck that I’ve studied enough neuroscience and practiced enough at life to understand that despite this mental fog, I have a choice. Albeit they feel limited at present, laying in bed for an hour before sleeping embodying everything in my life I feel grateful for lifted my spirit. Kindness to myself and the space I’m in. Compassion for the struggles all human beings have shared. Love for the challenge rising up as present, helping me open to life. Sounds quite airy fairy really but the truth is, I feel 110% more inspired. It might not be the jump-out-of-bed-excited-for-every-fucking-second inspired that I tend to be. But it’s a smile. As my man brings me a cuppa and some breakfast in bed and opens the blinds so I can see the sunrise over the beach. I remember the chat I had with Dr. J recently about being on a floating rock in the middle of fucking no where, with a ball of gases burning so hot it gives our planet enough energy to exist and light to see. That there are more than 7 billion other minds tinkering about in their own realities and we pondered. What if everyone was just more bloody kind. More compassionate. More loving. What if they zoomed out on their problems (this is my favourite technique when caught in our own self sorrow stories) and saw this big picture. You’re alive. And it’s a good fucking day to have a good fucking day even if you feel likes it’s a the hardest of your life. So from me to anyone of you not feeling on top of the world. It’s still your day. Love me
  • What a ripper of a mastermind. It was easier to connect human to human than LEGO this weekend. You know you’ve struck gold when #prepyourbox is suggested as a semi serious product name. And on multiple occasions, you laugh so hard a little wee comes out. It’s like this - apart it’s senseless contradiction but together - the perfect paradox. Like green eggs and ham. #isitjustme? #11unicorns
  • No one is your problem. Your perceptions are. It’s ironic as always, the people who irritate you the most are the ones who can teach you the most about yourself. It’s easy to lash out. It’s easy to judge. It’s easy to blame and try to prove your opinion or hold onto righteousness. It’s easy to criticize, play the victim and shut down. I’m very talented at all of these myself. It’s our natural human reflex to protect ourselves in this way. It’s also counter effective. When we let our fear (which encompasses the above) call the shots, we might feel a little more powerful and comfortable for a time. But there will come a point where you realize that all those sore spots were the parts of yourself you’ve needed to face head on and heal. And no, healing doesn’t need to be difficult. It’s a simple shift in perspective. It’s a new thought, a fresh belief that serves you instead of chains you. Instead of, “if I’m not in a relationship then I’m of no value”, what about, “I’m if not in a relationship then I AM of value”. When something so negative that makes me feel tiny seems so real, it’s because you’ve been telling yourself the same story for as long as you can remember. It takes courage to liberate yourself from your own bullshit, especially the ones you’ve spent a lifetime building evidence for. Night night love me :)
  • If we want to stand in our power then what we require isn’t a stronger grip on control, but the courage to release it. Our situation is our situation, and our emotions are a result of how we choose to see it. Emotions drive actions and our actions, well, they create the reaction that we know as ‘life’. If you want to achieve a goal, it’s not necessarily about changing your actions, it’s about your ability to take a big step back and have a look at what your mind is saying about the situation – the tension that mental attention creates and, most of all, learn to pause in that tension. When emotions rise up, it’s your job to own that, be in it, not run from it. When energy swirls inside, it’s your job to not react to it, but to move with it and shift it with your surrender and presence. Observe the story, be curious about what you’re afraid of or what you are resisting. Notice your urge to react. Most of all, notice how you judge your discomfort. There is warped conditioning in our world that if we are afraid, anxious, sad or stressed, that there is wrongness in this. The things we most fear and resist are the things we most need to face and feel. And most of the things we fear are the things we actually crave at a deep level. Peace, contentment, stillness. Yes, we fear peace; well, our mind does, because it thrives off fear and chaos. It’s happy when it’s busy and if there is peace inside of us, there is no busyness. So part of us craves happiness, peace and fulfilment and another part (mind) craves chaos. The quality of your life and your ability to pursue things that really matter is determined by your ability to feel the pull of the mind and resist giving into it. Your discipline is your freedom.
  • Sometimes shit goes down in life and we forget. So. Incase you’ve forgotten lately x
  • Check it out. Freedom, it’s a concept. Something we tend to change. But it’s like a donkey with a carrot that’s forever just that little bit in front of us. We never quite get “there”. The irony of life is that we’re born into a world where we’re taught that our happiness will arrive once we have a, b or c. Or our freedom or love etc etc. I like to think it’s a lot simpler than that. When you’re still enough and go deep enough, even for a minute, you’ll find that space of freedom/contentment/calm in that stillness. And here is my advice - live your life from that place. That way, NOTHING is out of reach, because you realise that you’ve already got it. When you’ve tasted and felt it, your mind can see and take note of it. Your entire way of interpreting life and this your actions change and with that, freedom becomes a place you’re acting from and expanding over and over again. It’s fucking brilliant. Not easy, of course. Simple enough, we just need to remember to go in.
  • What’s important to remember about showing your vulnerabilities is the intention behind it. If it’s done from a place of genuine connection with self and expression for the sake of truth, it’s healing. It’s powerful. It’s opening and evolutionary on every level. It’s being seen without needing to be seen and speaking without needing to be heard. The misconceptions about losing your cool and being a blubbering mess being vulnerability are just not true. When we express from anywhere else except our deepest uncharged but also raw truth, it is not in fact genuine, as it’s not from a space of non attachment as described above. When we express because we’re trying to escape an uncomfortable feeling then we’re not truly doing the work from a place of truth, we’re doing it from a place of fear of what we feel and desire for it to shift or be gone. When we share or open from a place of wanting to be seen, heard and validated (and that’s the ONLY intention) we are also coming from fear; we’re acting with a desire for return. This is neither truth, love or true vulnerability. But when you open, guard down, ego aside, raw and grounded in your own expression - this is power beyond any kind of, “toughness” imaginable. When we resist vulnerability we disable ourselves from our ability to love and feel at our deepest human potential. The thing is - we’re human so we’re going to constantly be tempted to pull back or vomit what feels uncomfortable. Hot fucking tip: If you want to master your emotions, spend more time in your centre, more time paying attention to your breath, more time going in. That way, you’re developing the self control needed to remain grounded regardless of what’s happening outside of you and how you feel. Love love
  • Fear, overthinking, emotions, a core sense of unworthiness no matter what your external looks like… Failure? Nope. Symptoms of being a human being. Welcome to a little thing called life. This is how it rolls. You are born. You get grown ups who take care of you, or don’t. The mind of a child attempts to make sense of pain and pleasure, detangling the charged emotions around both. Am I worthy? Am I safe? Who cares about me? Who do I need to be to be accepted in this world?
 What will keep me out of pain? How do I get love? How am I meant to give love? Who do I need to be, to be enough? It’s right there at this point that I would like to grab every single child gently but firmly and hold them in unconditional love and say: “You are worthy and you are loved, period.” Every time we ‘human’ (get emotional, caught up in the mind, feel lost, avoid vulnerability out of fear of rejection or failure, sabotage intimacy to protect ourselves) what we’re learning to get better at is unconditional love. Our parents can love us unconditionally, it only takes one moment for the mind to make X = Y. Where X is an event and Y is our perception that creates meaning out of that event with the headline “I am not enough” or “I won’t be loved”. Do I still fear rejection, failure and avoid vulnerability? 1000%. I’m only telling you this story to help you understand that the best way to grow, become stronger and get through the cycles of life is unconditional love. Did I have plenty of opportunity to still not love myself? Absolutely. Our parents can love us unconditionally, it only takes one moment for the mind to make X = Y. After working with humans for almost a decade, it becomes very apparent, we all have an X and a Y. Our childhood self-protective mechanism becomes our adult destructive sabotages. All it takes is a single, seemingly insignificant event for a child to decide this. Of course, it can be deeply traumatic events or even repeated micro instances. What I’m sayin’ is, no one avoids this and dare I say, nor should we. Life works in cycles. Throw yourself into things that feel like engulfing love, but never to avoid pain. We grow and get lighter each cycle. So never stop❤
  • Look, it’s easy to get lost in fear. It’s like a crocodile death roll of past experiences swallowing you whole at times. I get it. But what other choice do you have, really? There’s risk in trusting life - I mean, you’ve felt the pain of disappointment, failure and rejection before. It could happen again!!! Right? Yep. Sure. But guess what else could happen. Nothing. And everything. All those experiences could make you close off to love, opportunity, connection, wealth, growth and experience if you let it. Or you could allow them to teach you, make you wise and most of all realist this: it’s all just a beautiful fucking ride. Failure and rejection are just words. Success and freedom are only concepts. If you place it all aside and ask yourself what’s most important you’ll see that deep down we all want the same shit just in different packaging; happiness, contentment, fulfillment, peace etc etc and how do we get those? Well aside from going in more often and connecting to yourself in stillness (couldn’t help myself), you have to embrace all the opposites. Fall in love with discomfort, discontent, suffering and chaos. Love it all the same. Stop boxing your experiences as good and bad and learn to embrace it all, millimeter by millimeter until you’re faced with nothing but life itself in raw form and resisting nothing. Happy Monday ❤️
  • Heart diving is not pretty work. "Open when you want to close", I have said in the past. If you ever followed this advice, I empathise and admit, I am an asshole. Because this work is very fucking uncomfortable. You know when you go through a breakup or someone close to you passes and your heart literally HURTS? Like your chest aches and your throat tightens and your belly churns? Do you want to know why? Because healing the heart means stripping the layers of protection off and letting it be touched by the world. It hurts. Like when the blister bursts and the little bubble rips off and it kinda stings just from the breeze. Yah. That is the beginning of a heart opening. It means feeling it all and allowing the world to strip you down to the bare bones so that you realise that the walls you built, only kept you apart from love and others out, instead of protecting you. It made you tough and hard. It made you poised but rigid. And then you learn, you must feel it all and let it make you wither and worm until you finally get it. Stop struggling. Stop, just sit with it and then guess what, it won’t control you anymore. The funny thing is, when you dive as deep into your heart as I have been, exploring realms of consciousness, heart, mind and the good old dry as fuck and spectacularly messy experience of being a human. The moments of clarity feel different than they ever did. I think I have been waiting to feel, ON again and after some, time I’ve realised oh no, this is flow. It’s just here now. When you shift and change at such rapid rates and your work and your life are intertwined like a wave is with the ocean. And sometimes you’re the wave feeling a little disconnect and alone, other times the ocean feeling whole and powerful and then sometimes you’re the surfer who dumped by the biggest mother-fucking-wave of your life and there is coral in your leg, you’re rollin’ in the barrels wondering when you’re going to be able to surface for air. Oh, and, there is a shark swimming at you. There is all that. Where we want to be is not just cruising as the ocean but all three. And simply learning not to freak the fuck out when you’re the surfer getting dumped.Cont⬇

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