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You’re Not Behind. Stop Complaining | Audio Training | Amber Hawken Dip. Mindfulness CBT
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How To Make It Easy To Get What You Want | Audio Blog | Amber Hawken Dip. Mindfulness CBT
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How To Let Go Of Worry And Control | Audio Blog + Meditation | Amber Hawken
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How To Cultivate Your Self Control | Amber Hawken Blog | Dip. Mindfulness based CBT
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@amber_hawken
  • We’re all in this together. If I reject me then I reject you. If I reject you then I reject myself. Mirrors, they’re bloody everywhere. While this seems a little deep for a Friday, it’s pertinent with everyone’s crashing in burning of allllll of the parts of themselves, connections, habits, defensive mechanisms and beliefs that were chocking growth and freedom. I want to scream in the mirror “I fucking love you” a million times over until not just my cells feel it and know but, but so my great grandchildren’s do as well. Appreciate the vastness or deep embrace of our shadows and light is the work I dedicate my life to. So naturally the universe kicked my ass hard core recently, ensuring that ANY lack of integrity with my teachings was stripped from me. Quite painfully, really. That’s what happens when stubbornness comes into play. Strength and independence now have whole new meanings in my life and they look something like letting the universe swallow my shadows whole and laying on the floor in fetal position for six hours. That’s always fun to do. Compassion pours from me these days, expected when you are stripped to your core to face your greatest fears. Now life feels light. Like I’m navigating with a feather compass and my stubbornness and strength can be put to better use, like searching for the best coffee on Easter Friday with @darrenjbruce and @jesskraushar instead of protecting the parts of my heart that I didn’t even know where fossilized. Touché universe, touché. My point is, do the work guys, it’s icky, it’s tough at times, but it’s the reason we’re here. To walk each other home again, eh. Isn’t that fucking beautiful x
  • Sometimes I do shit that Amber five years ago would have thought made me a super freak. Only then,super freaks weren’t an affectionate word coined by a mentor of mine @hayleycarr.tv and my other mentor and guide @kurtthemeditationmechanic would have totally tripped me out. In fact, seven years ago when I sat in my very first “group” meditation class with him, that ironically was just he and I, I’d never been more judgmental of the idea of “meditation”. I. Hated. It. So much so I could barely sit for an hour. I was doing it for the “benefits” of being more “efficient”. Oh how the ego loves a goal and is able to make everything about itself and having more. In this sitting I’m receiving Hapé (Rapé) at a retreat I just ran. Normally I would keep the details private as to not rock too many people’s worlds (like past ambers reality). But after gifting this to my clients and watching them finally experience a few moments of thoughtlessness and the capacity of the clear mind and freedom..being that they’re some of the most linear thinking, giant hearted and powerful beings I know - I realised - it’s time to share this goodness. We will be seeing this more and more. (No it’s not an illegal psychedelic mixed by weird hippies in a cult 😂 just tabaco and herbs - we westerners smoke with toxins mixed in and create disease though, mostly). The intention of such ceremony and plant medicine isn’t to spend life escaping into different dimensions. It’s to help us shift out of the noise of the mind that keeps us restrained to the depression of the past and anxiety of the future. A glimpse of what’s actually real - now. So that we can have a compass, an anchor to return to without such medicines through the practices of laughter, purpose, flow, focus, breath, meditation, mindfulness, love making and anything that brings us to the present. It’s fucking great. I’ll put some information about it in the comments Incase anyone is interested in finding out more. Or just come to one of my retreats ( although honestly, I don’t know what’s at the next one in August, my finer event details are always designed to support those coming). Anyways, happy Wednesday 🤘🏼
  • So apparently, according to a legendary poet, Rumi, “When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy.” Let me tell you that I felt ice in places ice should not be and my cells were so fucking cold it BURNT. I’ve spent almost four days pushing my clients to and beyond their edge and many times dove in with them. From plant medicine, breathing until we break all resistance, exposing ourselves to ourselves, to taking them into a very hot, dark hut to face their shit and let the mother absorb and transmute it. Immersion and intensives like this squeeze you right down to the core and while these women look brighter, lighter and more alive than ever, it didn’t feel like a river of joy for most of it. That kinda’ joy, that level of orgasmic gold requires sacrifice. It requires staying out, coming home when all you want to do is lock yourself, your heart and your feelings deep, deep down and turn away. At alchemy we face our frustrations, anger, limits, blame, shame, guilt, sabotage, judgments, justifications, stories, excuses and basically - bullshit, front on. I hold my clients to the highest standard and they trust me with their life. We get so close and personal that our bodies shake, hearts race, minds freak the absolute fuck out, emotions become tidal waves inside our throat, bellies and chest and we want to run so fast in the opposite direction and leave what we find in the dark. Luckily, we’ve made the dark our friend over and over again here. I’ve never had a stronger and more connected community on retreat before and it’s been an honour to stand and face my own darkness for four days over and over and over again. We’re hours away from finishing our retreat and I’m munching on the pancakes while mapping out the final hours to ensure the clearings we’ve completed and anchoring into ourselves remains in place forever. So no matter what life brings, they know where to go (inside) to be, act, speak, love, live and give from a sacred place inside themselves that’s always been there, just buried by the mind and heaviness we believe we need to carry in life. Let’s do it 🤘🏼
  • Our natural state and evolutionary path is to remain open even when you feel the normal pains, aches and frustrations of life. Life mastery in all areas demands openness. An openness that evokes a state of love. Love is not romantic in this sense, in fact it’s incredibly strong, bold and lethal against all fears, doubts and insecurities. It’s a composed state where you are not up or down but on your axis, in your centre. You are deeply rooted in this moment and open to the world in front of your eyes. Opening, like all things in life that enable us to grow, is a skill. It’s like anything really, first we don’t know that we’re closing. Then when you read this, and you think, “uh oh, I feel that lack sometimes, righto – let’s take a look…” then you become aware that you are closing. Now you went from unconscious incompetence to conscious incompetence. Slightly insulting, really, but ignorance will always precede evolution. Openness overall feels like a very open channel of love, acceptance, reviving and giving of love to and from others. Of course this includes the romantic kind of connection as well, but again, a lack of love is never there when you’re open because you understand lack equals closed. If you feel a lack or need or want or anger towards another you can become aware of it and open with those feelings. You can even open when you feel closed or afraid. Practically speaking, if you can take a breath and find the tension in your body – the point of closure, fear, shut down, anger, jealousy, guilt, shame etc – then feel yourself relax and open to it and feel it all. Or, you could stay closed because you refuse to open to these things. It’s natural for us to close when we feel uncomfortable so each time we close, we’re simultaneously gifted the opportunity to practice become open right there and then, in that exact moment we want to shut down and turn to our safe habits and behaviours; denial of our desire or openness or love, indulging in our pain, sugar, TV, seeking attention, you name it.. The moments that trigger us to close are necessary teachers. You have love in your heart You’re willing to taste every part of life including darkness ❤️
  • This last week I made one of the most difficult decisions my life. I shit you not. One that has equally brought me to my knees in grief, fear and sadness as it has given me the space I know I needed to create for myself. Apparently Chiron has cracked the shits and Pluto is demanding you recite the alphabet backwards or something, and we all seem to be getting squeezed, so I thought I’d throw it out there to those doing the hard yards and tip my glass of whisky to you (kidding, totally hiking waterfalls and sipping tea on Friday nights because - this work requires discipline). I wanted to say (to myself) - I feel ya. Following your “truth” advice needs to come with a big neon sign that says, “Yo, if you follow me, just know that its going to feel like a big fucking knife that cuts through the middle of your heart and leaves you raw and open. You’re going to be really scared and you’ll wanna’ have a lot of wine and maybe you will not want to get out of bed for a bit but hey, we will give you a tiny little torch that will give you a 30cm radius of light so you can see one step in front of you. You’ll be right, mate, just keep stepping, that gross stuff will pass”. And....DO NOT TRY AND CONTROL A THING. I want to be real here. I wake up in the middle of the night, heart pounding and burst into tears the the guy at Zambreros asking me if I wanted avocado on my burrito. I feel sick to my gut and I want to scramble back to safety a million times a day. This is not a pretty place. My eyes are puffy ALL the time. My skin has broken out and Im living on tea and bickies and random take away smoothies because its what I choose to do right now. Im a mess because I allow it. So it’s not really messy, it’s unfolding, it’s healing. Making jokes, laughing at myself, loving unconditionally, taking responsibility, letting go and squeezing my small boobs is really how I get through. This picture felt appropriately inappropriate. Its as if you are in the middle of the swap with Luke Skywalker who crashed his mothership, except the ship has already sunk, you don’t have yoda guiding you to levitate that shit outta mud. Contd⤵ (PS dudes I’m okay🤘🏼)
  • Sit. Enjoy. Release.
  • Easier said than done. A reminder for those (self included) facing parts of themselves they haven’t visited for a while. I know it’s easier to go into aggression, defence and blame. Oh do I know. Let this be a reminder to soften. Softening can be a profoundly healing undertaking, helping to make more room for pain and difficulty, enriching our capacity for deeper love. Robert says it best “Seeds grow in the dark—so do we. Let’s stop making such a virtue out of the light and turn toward what’s in the shadows and breathe it in, breathe it here meeting it face-to-face until we realize with more than mind that what we are seeing is none other than us in endarkened disguise Seeds grow in the dark—so do we. Let’s not be blinded by light let’s unwrap the night building a faith too deep to be spoken a recognition too central to be broken until even the darkest of days can light our way” Okay now go and let the seriousness fall away and be kind to someone randomly. It doesn’t need to be heavy, you just need to have courage and a smile to lift you through. (Talking to self if you didn’t notice) Love me!
  • Well shit. Somehow I’ve woken up in the midst of one of the most paradoxically challenging and equally extraordinary weeks of my life. In the last 24 hours I’ve spent with some of the most incredible teachers I’ve ever met during my rounds around Australia with @calmmindproject This bunch (not in this pic - will snap their mugs later today after the final workshop) remind me that light, courage, humility and connection are everything when it comes to leadership and changing our world. That this random idea of a business I pipe-dreamed a few years ago is not too bad of an idea. I’ve had my close circle of friends who would have named their unborn child or given me their last bit of their fav muffin, should it have help lift me out of a very challenging week I’ve just had in my personal world. Reminding me that humans are fucking incredible and Im selfish because I’m pretty sure I’ve got a crew of the best ones in the universe by my side. I’ve had an influx of text messages and session debriefs from clients sharing some insanely massive internal shifts that have lead to life changing leaps in their external world that make me feel as though they could one day teach me! This trip of life never ceases to amaze me. I was flicking through my camera roll for a photo of my face happy and distressed enough to show the contrast of my extreme feelings this week and I landed on a few from a retreat I ran last year (swipe photos) My clients truly feel like my legacy. Howwww do they get so amazing????? And look at them. Hilarious, beautiful and powerful beings. I’m so damn grateful. I’m so fucking proud. Bring on our bi-yearly retreat in two weeks! (Also one spot left, message for deets) I can’t wait to squeeze you as we dive into our soul and minds together for four days ❤️ What a ripper of a year it’s been already. Nothing wise to say, just, thank you.
  • An ode to humaning ❤️
  • You know how they say when you judge another it’s a direct reflection of yourself? I guess that’s why when I look at ice cream I see a deliciousness of infinite potential waiting to delight me. Okay but seriously I have an exercise, for you if you’d like to measure how (un)enlightened you (we all) are. Read on. Story first. Back in another lifetime when I treated cancer and told people to do burpees (not at the same time), I was strict as fuck on myself, diet included. My days would be wake up 4:30am train clients, go to the hospital, treat cancer, go to the gym and work with clients, train myself, go home and eat low carb bullshit, sleep and repeat. I was a machine and people complimented me all the time about how hard working and amazing I was. I was a magnet for validation, because at that time, I still really thought I needed it. It’s a gross life. So busy and externally stimulating Ironically I wouldn’t have been able to see that at the time. We never can. So I have a bit of a litmus test for true inner peace and fulfilment. It’s also a relative guide to the level of meditation I need a day. You can use my test if you like. So. If you can look at ice cream and see love the same way you can look in the mirror and see love AND look into the eyes of someone who you’ve felt hurt by and see love, you only need a simple daily meditation practice to maintain such balance. And ice cream. If you look in the mirror at your life and need ice cream, try 20 minutes of compassion, 10 minutes of moving your body and 10 minutes of easy breath. You gotta fucking love yourself at a deeper level so ice cream can enhance life, not numb it. And if you look into the eyes of someone you feel hurt by and you want to throw the ice cream and or eat more than when you looked at your own face, you’ll require a minimum of 90 minutes per day of kindness practice to self, add some compassion for those who you feel hurt you, maybe some kickboxing to shed the energy of anger, perhaps three cycles of cycle breathing and coherent breath work. So I made the times up, but you get the idea, it’s relative. The less love you feel in your reflections, the more time you need in ❤️
  • I was in a session with a client today and she was at a crossroads in her life. It looked something like all our crossroads look, it had two basic options with a back up of a million other maybes thrown in, you know, just Incase it wasn’t agonising enough to decide between two. It had what most of us have at a cross roads. Do what I’ve always done because it feels safe and familiar and I know I can a result that way even though that results isn’t fulfilling for me it’s at the very least, familiar. Or, try something I’ve been avoiding because in my mind, there are many potential outcomes that I’m afraid to face should they occur and OR if I do X then Y will happen. It’s easy enough to advise from afar and we’d all be screaming, pick the new thing, go on, bloody do it. However when have you known yourself to fall back into the old because you’ve already decided that the alternative will mean that 1000% the thing you hate the most WILL occur. Let’s say that the crossroads is a career choice. Maybe a new relationship or the end of an old. You stay or you go. Stay = safe and cosy even if it’s not 1000% and going = fuck ton of unknowns of which also include assumptions about what lurks within those unknowns and how they’re going to affect you in a way you’d rather avoid. Eg you might not find secure work or you might not be good at that new job or you may never be loved again or you might get heartbroken. We dive so far into the future that we fuck up right now which means, in a nutshell, we create what we fear the most because we play out the fears in our mind. We’re so afraid of outcomes in the unknown that we either a) assume WILL happen when truly, you have no idea that it will, you’re assuming. Or b) assuming that if that did occur, it would be a bad thing. On both accounts you’re either making a shitty assumption and subscribing to a belief about what that outcome may or may not mean. Okay, so I hope this has made sense. I’ve eaten some @pana_organic ice cream and the sugar hit and I typed really fast. My point here is, if you want the best and most fulfilling life, simply be present with what’s to come and make choices from that present space, not your head!
  • When pain strikes us in the gizzards it’s easy to react. It’s easy to feel the punch of anger inside and point a finger at someone else. It’s easy to feel fear and grasp at words to fire at other to lessen the blow. If there’s anything we can apply right now in our world that will actually change the cycles of pain and fear - it’s love. I did an IG live and FB live on this topic and you can go and watch if you’d like to learn the alternatives you have to reacting in anger and what you do when you’re suffering that’s not projection ❤️ LOVE

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