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To Be, Human | Amber Hawken Dip. Mindfulness CBT
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Alchemy Retreat Feb 2020 | Amber Hawken Dip. Mindfulness CBT
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Tell Yourself The Truth | Amber Hawken Dip. Mindfulness CBT | Blog
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  • Dear one, listen up. This all ends. ⁣ Life, that is. Before you know it, we are worm food. ⁣And we need to remember that its not our job to arrive here and build a life that reflects a socially constructed version of success.⁣ ⁣ I know it’s what you’ve been told but it’s not true.⁣ ⁣It’s not even our job to learn to master enlightenment.⁣ Because grasping what we desire only chases it away.⁣ ⁣ We came here to fall down and scrape knees.⁣ To open hearts and have our heart opened.⁣ ⁣ To see that we are not as kind, together and conscious as we would always like to be. We came here to discover our nastiness, our fears and imperfections.⁣ ⁣ We came here to learn.⁣ To cry ourselves to sleep, sometimes.⁣ To laugh so hard it aches, sometimes.⁣ To eat delicious cookies and fall in love with strangers.⁣ Over and over again.⁣ ⁣ To learn compassion and kindness mostly, towards ourselves. To feel the richness of life when we give outwardly. To appreciate that the bright and shiny things that lure us in, also blind us from the truth. ⁣ ⁣ We’re here to be messy and cracked open. And in the shattering, allow what is not real – the fear that chokes our life force - and let it go.⁣ ⁣ We’re here to be us.⁣ In all of our chaotic human nature and infinitely expansive indestructible glory.⁣ ⁣ We have to allow life to fill us up through stillness and humble us through impermanence.⁣ To embrace both halves of the whole.⁣ To discover balance through imbalance.⁣ ⁣ Being without forcing.⁣ Living without expecting.⁣ Working hard and letting go.⁣ Determined but detached.⁣ ⁣ It’s precisely destructive open-hearted risk-taking for the sake of living. ⁣Even when it stings. And your mind runs wild. And everything in your well armed defences wants to got into lockdown. Be consciously still in mind and slow down and notice, especially your breath, often.⁣ ⁣ It’s the paradox of perfection and destruction that holds it all together.⁣ ⁣ So although its counter-intuitive, open when you want close and love when you want to run. ⁣ Because, this all ends ❤️
  • Hard things I’m learning that make me want to vomit and run away: Until you give up your want for more power. You won’t have love. Grief: the teacher of your capacity to love. Frustration: the teacher of your untapped potential. Desire :the teacher of your deepest truth. Judgment: the teacher of acceptance. Fuck intimacy. I love it. I hate it. It’s medicine. And better with slow movements. Tenderly, honestly and curiously. If you try to pacify, control, punish or shame yourself, You have no power at all. If you lead people through openness, humility, acceptance and curiosity to love the depths of who they are, You will need no power at all. The love of desire Gives life to the desire for love Allowing you to truly see What it is you came here for And paradoxically to create And release and Set you free from desire itself. Shall I do an IGTV on power, love and desire? Hit me up 🤙🏼 below with a yes if so.
  • NEW podcast with @holisticsexcoach is live! Finding your turn on: this is sensual, fire, flow and erotic feminine. I had the pleasure (pun intended) of interviewing Jamie Thompson. You can listen on iTunes and Spotify and the link is in my stories and bio! Some of the juicy aspects we touched on include: The things I loved most in this episode: Masks of masculinity for women who are feminine at their core Remembering pleasure and feeling How to soften and open in relationships Re-energising and vitalising through coming home Entering the pull instead of the push Reclaiming your polarity Coming back to the ancient wisdom of women Honouring the intelligence of the primal energy Exploring the different Erotic Menu for each of us The masculine paradigm sabotaging the divinity of the feminine Supporting yourself in coming back home to the feminine Not being afraid of the power of your darkness Understanding clean and clear dark and shadow dark Build your foundations of life from your sexual roots Unpacking shame and shadow of pleasure and sexuality Changing sex education and the way we approach sex in schools 5 ways to get into your feminine in three minutes Jamie, you saucy being, thank you and I adore you.
  • My teacher once said to me, “amber, when you find your shadow in this, you find your gold”. Shit. I’ve gotten a lot “done” due time my power pack in my body and mind. Energy for eons, and a lot of it. Sometimes a little chaotic ;) always ready for action. And, it worked with great results. Until it didn’t. Until I was exhausted. Until I was tired of the interval training type of life; push, stop and drop. Repeat. I was forced, dragged, broken, made to stop for years due to adrenal fatigue. And then I realised how backwards I was in, well, every way. Because I was afraid to trust life. To trust myself. I’d force until exhausted. Kick started from inspiration, sure: until I was high jacked by fear and wouldn’t know how to slow down and enjoy this process. Or life 😬 Now, it’s energy before action. Period. Full stop. If I’m not full, open, aligned and clear, I don’t move ahead. (Note, I believe you can still feel a lot of messiness and show up, but I don’t try and push to get away from the mess or fix it). Now, it’s fullness into flow. It’s complete respect for what I know in my every cell to be true. It’s ritual, moving into spontaneous and clear creation. It’s a lot of fucking fun. It’s listening to rhythms and know you can be both powerful and graceful. It’s not controlling and proving. And it’s not leading or inviting: it’s both. It isn’t either or. It’s both. A little mad isn’t it? Strange even, to think our power is that simple - That it’s in the surrender. Because at the end of the day, looking back, we can see that the magnificent moments arrived when we let go - all the way. And so we come to the strange conclusion, that in this letting go, madness lies not only sanity - but everything we’ve believed we have to exhaust ourselves for. Breathe and be, love 🤘 Our next full day immersion on the Gold Coast is Feb 16th (breathwork & rapé combined with next level workshopping) on self sovereignty, emotional and mental clarity, strength and open hearted purpose. Ground your busy mind and heighten your intuition. Lets rock your world, together 🤘❤️ links are in my bio or Eventbrite direct “The Sovereign Space Immersion” See you there!
  • Cookies are like love: when we deny our desire for them, it perpetuates the need for control causing chaos in our heart. My greatest Costa Rica lesson at day 22/33. Let your genuine heart desires guide you. This will trigger discomfort, worthiness and your oldest defences: the mother of all your fears. And since it is never the thing you fear that you must deal with (its the mother of the thing you fear). You must do it anyway. And face it front on. Let go and let love (cookies) in. Also - cookies.
  • Let me talk nerdy to your head. Listen to vid - and then..read. So now. Let me write to light to your soul. Breathe deep. Breathe with attention. Breathe with intention. Breathe evenly. Breathe circularly. Breathe openly. Breathe gratitude. This will unwind, unpack, unravel the tight grip control has on you. It will release you from the grip of heavy emotions sitting within your body and free you from the idea that what’s in front of you is something in the way of the path of where you should be, rather than the path along the way. Breathe and be, love. From that place, you’ll make contact with yourself - and no, I dont mean ancy pantsy (that’s okay and encouraged, of course) I mean, presence, with yourself. And what pops on out of that? Compassion. Which is really, just us seeing ourselves the way we see the innocence and potency of any human being we’ve ever looked up to. True compassion requires us to attend to our humanity, the absolute fucking chaos, inextricable from the invisible but very much palpable “us” under it all. Breath leads to presence, which leads to compassion, which leads to a deep acceptance of our life and selves as it is and in that final moment of, yes, for ourselves, we find a fuck ton of energy that’s previously been used to push away our shadows and discomfort. Basically, presence dissolves our protection and our shame. And then, we’re free. Breathe. 5 counts in slowly through your nose into your belly. 5 counts out, slowly, through your nose. Repeat for 90 seconds for a reset. Repeat for 9 minutes for a recalibration. Repeat for life for freedom :) You’re entire
  • On what we spoke about: I heard Joan Halifax speak last week and she said that line. “Compassion and Wisdom are interdependent” and it hasn’t left me. Compassion without wisdom can be stagnating. “Your partner left you? Im sorry it hurts, that must suck, I know how you feel, that’s completely understandable you want to get wasted and eat your weight in chocolate. Im’m here for you.” Wisdom with compassion can be harsh and without compassion, sometimes unhelpful. “Everything ends.” It’s completely understandable. What do you need? Together, the loosening of our rigid “true for me” reality through compassion, allows us to humble ourselves to the wisdom that, what’s true, is not necessarily the same as the truth. Example of what might be true for you. Money is hard. If I let someone in, I’ll get hurt. Change is difficult and slow. Motherhood is exhausting. Coriander is disgusting. All of these experiences can be true for someone. And, untrue for someone else. Whats true is the meaning we give something. The truth is whats left without the bias of our meanings. There is power in acknowledging, hearing, seeing, feeling and accepting our own or another’s experience. And there is liberation in knowing that there is another, more freeing version of this experience available. Un unbiased one, that leaves you free to choice your life experience. The truth. Which is available for us to give whatever meaning we choose. Or perhaps no meaning at all. What a bloody concept. Maybe we can just observe it, like a flower, a sunset, a waterfall or our breath. And I reckon its worth mentioning, that the power of being heard and validation in what is true for us is inexplicably connected to seeing what the truth is. Its almost like to open to freedom, we must aknowledge our self made prison and that pain we’re experience been placed in the atmosphere through writing, speaking, movement etc so it can be expelled and dissolved. Which then leaves a spaciousness for wisdom to land on the tip of our mind gently.
  • I had a little experience Sunday that reminded me of the importance of not trying to skip healing for the sake of enlightenment. It’s a tough gig with the Instagram world premiering our front of minds so often with the ideas of what it means to be a “good” or “spiritual” person/teacher. Point in case This photo. I’m not taking about yoga here. I’m talking about integrity - and yet, your brain connects dots unconsciously despite the two being interdependent. And, I feel it’s good to speak to it so we can pay closer attention to where we might be able to move closer to integrity of integrating human and divine. When we try to lead/teach or inspire from a place of disconnect, unconscious bypassing and deflection is probable. I’ve done it, we all have. It’s normal. A stepping stone. It’s still dangerous if unchecked. This happens a lot in spiritual practices and personal growth due to the shadow and shame of being the "victim", "negative" or "unhappy". Instead of honouring what's true in that moment; the raw feelings; we try to skip over the trenches, we shut down the rawness and venture off to the fairies too soon. We try to move over it, past it or through it to early and as a result it gets covered by sunshine and affirmations. It's spiritual arrogance passed off as wisdom or higher vision. A sweat lodge is a traditional cleansing ceremony, originating in Canada. I actually have them at every single retreat I run (alchemy, next one Sunshine Coast Feb 27th, apply link in bio) You enter into a pitch-black tent, water is poured over hot rocks and you face yourself in unexpected ways. I cried from somewhere deep in my guts about the fires. Afterwards, a gentleman came over to me and sat down and said, "Wow, I didn't realise it was so bad in Aus. But you know, fire is cleansing, death is part of it, it'll come back quick.” Oooommmmphhhh. Gah. Shh It felt like someone had just asked me what I inherited from my mother while still burying her at the funeral. Continued below...
  • My greatest joy is showing those who have influence and already know how to lead through strength and charm, that there is a secret they’re missing. It’s the kind of strength we’re not accustomed to. A way of guiding, teaching, coaching, leading and presence that inspires people to be self governing as opposed to authority and devotees through superiority or status. This kind of trust isn’t earned how you probably think. Tenderly, tenderly. Its a fucking revolution In a world of limitlessness, we are accustom to want the mountain without the climb. To demand respect and authority before we’ve gained a certain level of calm, clarity and certainty within ourselves. It’s an entitled arrogance. An expectation for people to listen to us because we’re on some kind of position. An artist. A high profiler. A parent. A yoga teacher or shaman. A partner. Management. The big boss. CEO. Entrepreneur. We think there’s is sliding scale based on following, qualification, money or fame. We think people should listen because we talk loud, make the rules or have people who look up to us. Having people listen to you is less about where you’re standing. And all about who you are. Can I trust you? Are you real? Can I feel you? Do you have integrity? Do you know yourself? Are you afraid of being wrong? Can you ask for help? Do you value growth. Are you in this for you or we? No matter who it is you’re guiding, if you want your impact to ripple from a place of integrity and inspire those around, it should be so in a way that comes from a place of clarity and connection with yourself that you’re cultivating within. I have three places for Leadership For We intensives in 2020 open now. Apply using the link in my bio.
  • Just a thought to let tickle your insides. It’s exhausting being so protected. That’s why the antidote to exhaustion is not necessarily rest. It’s is wholeheartedness
  • Feb 27th - March 1st Sunshine Coast Women's only in the hinterlands is the Sunshine Coast. Power reclamation at a soul-deep level. Shadow work. Somatic healing. Deeply meditative and self-connective practices. Dissolving and integration of judgment, stress, hyperdrive, control, fear and shame. Outdoor adventures and excursions. Downtime, nidra, grounding and restorative yoga practices. Breath work, krya practices and sweat lodge ceremonies Hot seat real time breakthrough coaching. Workshops on sovereignty, emotional intelligence, creativity, yin and flow surrender, spiritual growth, energetic upgrades and mental empowerment. Support pre and post-retreat to ensure preparation and intergration. Application link is in my bio @amber_hawken
  • Healing is a heartache and can be difficult to achieve (if we fight it) because strangely, we have to face the part of us that refuses to eliminate the original wound. Healing also draws us closer to its source. To heal is to first, get close to the nature of the hurt by opening to it when you feel it in the present. To notice where you’re being poked and choose to do something about it, to change the reaction you’ve been letting lead your life. The honouring of its course coming to an end is accompanied by grief and acknowledgment that with a fresh beginning comes with a letting go. Sometimes we prefer to struggle with this because a part of us believes it should be hard. That we simply cannot touch the place, release and reframe (or have it reframed through the release of emotion). So I suggest a simple remedy, which is, as we approach its raw centre, to reimagine our relation to it. To believe a new thing about what it was and what it means. And choose to let that lead our lives. This video by my a little triggering, and whilst I’m a firm teacher of honouring our capacity to change our world right in the now, there’s no denying that there is a time and a place for working back and collapsing sabotage at the core. Please feel free to ask me any questions. This deeper work is explored at my alchemy retreats (application link in bio or message me direct for more information)

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